Help your teen become social in real life.
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A growing body of research shows that young people are more likely to feel lonely than older people. Loneliness is especially hard on teens because it can affect them in many different ways.
42% of high school students report feeling sad or hopeless in the past year. Research shows that 12- to 15-year-olds who use social media for more than three hours each day are at increased risk for negative mental health outcomes such as anxiety and depression.
Some lonely teens experience high stress, poor sleep, and decreased academic performance.
With technology in the form of social media, texting, messaging, and other forms of digital communication, young people are becoming savvy at using keypads. But they lack real life skills. It forever changed social norms about how we communicate.
5 ways to help your teen become more social in real life
You don’t have to be alone to feel lonely. Some situations can make teens feel lonely, such as changing schools, experiencing bullying (and cyberbullying), parents getting divorced, or moving to a new area.
1. Hobbies, interests, and activities. Find out what your teen is passionate about or interested in. Perhaps a job or an internship. There are many hobbies and activities you can participate in, including sports, dancing, chess, writing, theater, hiking, and cycling. Meeting other peers with a teen’s own interests can encourage (real-life) conversations.
2. Volunteerism and community service. In most schools, community service is part of your high school credits. Humane societies, nursing homes, day care centers – your teenager will benefit when they contribute to their community.
3. Part-time job. Encourage your teen to find a part-time job. Collaborating with peers and learning about others is a great way to get out and interact with other young people. Earning your own money increases your confidence and prepares you for the future.
4. Join a gym. yes. Joining a gym is a great way to feel less lonely, and physical activity stimulates many brain chemicals that may make you happier, more relaxed, and less anxious. Has your teen met new friends (or old ones)? Join us! Working out is a great way to meet people and feel good.
5. Have a pet. There is a wealth of research on the value of pets for psychological well-being. These relationships also trigger the release of oxytocin as a result of attachment. Oxytocin is a powerful chemical in the brain that helps you feel calm and makes you feel more connected to others. Pets provide emotional support and connection. Caring for a pet is a fun experience.
Just like with adults, it’s not fun to feel lonely, but with time and persistence, you can make your teen feel less lonely. Sometimes, you just need to put down your phone and engage with people in real life.