Understanding Children’s Emotions

Children often sense when something is amiss, even if they haven’t been directly exposed to the news. Creating a calm environment and being honest in age-appropriate ways is crucial. Start by addressing their feelings directly:

“Something unfortunate and scary happened. A Jewish family’s home was set on fire just because of who they were. That can feel upsetting—and it’s okay to feel sad, angry, or confused about it.”

It’s important not to dismiss their concerns with quick reassurances. Instead, acknowledge and reflect their feelings:

“You’re feeling scared. That makes sense. When bad things happen, it’s natural to feel unsure or upset.”

Emphasizing Safety and Trust

After experiencing or witnessing trauma, children need reassurance about their safety and the trustworthy individuals in their lives. Parents can help by reminding them of the safe people they can rely on, such as:

• Parents and caregivers
• Teachers and school personnel
• Neighbors and close family friends
• Police officers or community helpers

Further, discuss your family’s emergency plan collaboratively, encouraging children to contribute ideas, which empowers them:

• Who should we contact if something alarming happens?
• Where can we all safely meet if communication is compromised?
• Who are the helpers in our community?

Managing News Exposure

We live in an era of constant news updates, which can overwhelm both adults and children. It’s advisable to limit their exposure to distressing information. Ensure your own media habits are mindful as well. You act as their emotional compass; your calm demeanor can help ground them.

Reassure your children with statements like:

“You are safe. We are together. You can always share what’s on your mind.”

Promoting Connection and Action

In times of uncertainty, the instinct may be to withdraw. However, healing is often found through connection. Encourage community resilience by engaging in activities such as:

• Attending local vigils or gatherings
• Writing supportive letters to those affected by injustices
• Discussing with allies about standing united against hate
• Volunteering as a family

These actions not only assist others but also instill a sense of purpose and strength in your children, demonstrating the importance of advocacy and community engagement.

Encouraging Ongoing Conversations

The legacy of Jewish history is one of survival, resistance, rebuilding, and hope. It is vital to convey this multifaceted narrative to children, highlighting both the challenges and the resilience that follows.

Establish that safety is built gradually through continuous dialogue marked by honesty and love. As Rabbi Nachman of Breslov famously stated:

“The whole world is a very narrow bridge—but the main thing is not to be afraid.”

As we navigate this narrow bridge together, we reinforce the importance of connection, empathy, and hope for a better future.